Can mind be flexible?
Have you ever thought about mental flexibility?
With the global popularity of yoga, it is clear that we appreciate physical flexibility but what about our minds… can we become more flexible when it comes to our opinions, likes, dislikes, problem-solving, ways in which we process reality; and can this be helpful?
Last few weeks have been full of change and uncertainty for me. My son started a new school, which we hadn’t even seen before the opening day. It is not because we didn’t want to.. we have seen 15 other schools and picked 5 we really liked but he didn’t get a place in any of those.
We moved to a new apartment, which looked great on paper but had several “secrets” we were not aware of and with which we had to deal in the process (on top of everything else we are doing), not to mention packing, transporting, unpacking, constantly looking for something and not finding it, which in itself can drive one crazy! 🙂
Without my mindfulness practice, this would be a VERY stressful period. Instead, it was challenging but allowed me to grow and learn more about myself and my family, the decisions we make, the compromises we reach, the support we can offer to each other. Below are a few ideas you might find useful, next time you are entering a “high stress” period in your life.
MINDFUL ATTITUDES which help you stay FLEXIBLE
Let go of attachment to a particular outcome. It will stress you out when things go wrong and stop you from seeing potential opportunities in the difficulties.
Don’t rush to make the decisions, give yourself time to process things.
Practice the ‘beginner’s mind’. This will help you open up to ALL possibilities, especially those which were not a part of the original plan.
Allow things to go wrong and don’t feel guilty about it. We are all learning, things don’t have to work out immediately.
Ask for help! You really don’t have to do it all by yourself, there are plenty of people out there.
Be aware that this too will pass, nothing lasts forever. Hang in there, it will be over soon.
Trust that whatever happens, is exactly what you needed in that moment, even if it feels hard, wrong, difficult, maybe that is what you need right now.
Loosen your ideas about what you like and dislike and just accept things as they unfold, you might find that the “bad” outcomes are in fact a blessing.
When you feel that everything is falling apart, close your eyes and take a few deep breaths, take a mental break, just breath for a moment.
For things to reveal themselves to us, we need to be ready to abandon our views about them.
– Thich Nhat Hanh